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How to Develop Self Confidence and Influence People by Public Speaking, Dale Carnegie

Dale Carnegie’s How to Develop-Self Confidence & Influence People by Public Speaking is an evergreen work.  The main takeaway from this book is that improving public speaking and improving self-confidence are a function of preparation, education, determination, and practice.  There is no short cut to a better you - rather a long path of self-improvement.

Ego Is the Enemy, Ryan Holiday

This book is written in 3 different parts, namely Aspire, Success and Failure. This is to remind the reader to be: - Humble in aspirations - Gracious in success - Resilient in failure This is attributed to the belief that everyone’s life has cycles of 3 stages and at any one point, we are either aspiring to something, succeeding at something, or failing at something. This book will not only teach you some invaluable skills, but it will make you consider your moral fiber. It will motivate you to improve yourself in every way, starting by conquering your ego. A light and easy read that will make you think and ask questions and surely grow from the experience.

Man's Search For Meaning, Viktor Frankl

If you need ideas or genuinely want to be entertained. This book is great at showing an extreme example of transformation. From psychiatrist to holocaust survivor to world renowned psychologist. Viktor Frankl created his version of therapy called logotherapy, in which one must find the meaning of their existence. Very entertaining and bound to spark some ideas.

Four Purposes of life, Dan Millman

Very great follow up to Viktor Frankl's man search for meaning. While Frankl tells his life story, Millman puts the concept of purpose into modern day context.

The Motivation Manifesto, Brendan Burchard

Sometimes we all feel in a rut, belittled, lazy,  or self- conscious. But with this short book on motivation, it allows you to gain motivation to face fears, approach day to day life with more enthusiasm and pick up an idea or two to present on. 

Mastery, Robert Greene

Ever wonder what makes someone so good at a particular subject or area? Does it ever cross your mind how you could become an expert in a certain field? Robert Greene's mastery gives real life examples of people in history and modern culture who have overcome the 10-year gap to mastery and dominate their industry. Makes for a great book on motivation and gives interesting information. 

The War Of Art, Steven Pressfield

Idea/ imagination simulator 101 is more like it. Public Speaking speaking is art in an oratory form, so what makes people so fearful of it? Easiest book on this list and still of the most benefit for anyone's use. If there is one book I recommend for anyone with time constraints it's this one. Did you know Adolf Hitler wanted to be an artist? (this book clarifies that for you!)

Learned Optimism, Martin Seligman

Dr. Martin Seligman, a pioneer in cognitive psychology and motivational research, tells you how to identify your own self-defeating thought patterns -- and how to harness the powers of your conscious mind to break those patterns. This is probably more for after a bad speech and you feel down about it. Lessons given from this book can generate ideas, give valuable insight into your own life and allow you to have a flexible/ optimistic outlook in everyday life.

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